I Hate My Body

RE: I Hate My Body (Vario)

Tue, 07 Feb 2006 21:06:18 GMT

Sent you a pm of encouragement marchhare.

RE: I Hate My Body (bodybuilding is life)

Tue, 03 Jan 2006 17:21:28 GMT

Yeah Dan you sure do know your stuff. I totaly agree with Dan, just because you lift weights doesn't mean you'll get big and bulky. I've never had to really lose weight before but i used to run alot while working out. My old neighbor used to bike all the time. He was very fit, and he never lifted.. He wasn't very strong but had very high stamina and looked great for his age. Bikeing is a great and fun way to lose weight. Though depending if your going up hills and stuff it could take longer than running. ( gears etc...)

RE: I Hate My Body (danmirage)

Mon, 02 Jan 2006 22:55:23 GMT

Very kind of you to say so Chris.

Really, as a trainer...it is my passion to see people achieve and maintain their personal goals!!

RE: I Hate My Body (chrisshepherd)

Mon, 02 Jan 2006 17:13:09 GMT

Dan you are amazing.

There I said it.

RE: I Hate My Body (danmirage)

Mon, 02 Jan 2006 09:43:11 GMT

For what it is worth, using weight training along with cardio will raise your caloric burn and lose you the size faster. And it will not necessarily build muscle:
Do reps in the 15-25 range.

You can not starve yourself and expect lose weight...so you need to be sure that you are getting your maintenance and using cardio to get the -500 calories...

As you lose weight, your caloric needs will drop...make up for this with slight diet adjustments every 5 pounds (-75 about calories) and changes in cardio/training.

Your goal should be no more than 2 pounds a week loss. More than that and the body resists you and tricks you! Also you will yo-yo, meaning the body will lose muscle which slows the metabolism and then it will store nearly everything you eat as fat! Fat cell replenishment is a priority in starvation.

Make sure to change the intensity of your cardio every week: If you want to keep the body losing the weight, you have to keep it in a state of adaptation and change.

This means start your cardio with 3 days at 30 minutes low perceived intensity (1 week) , then switch to moderate perceived intensity(1 week), then high perceived intensity(1 week). Then change the type you do and start at moderate perceived intensity (1 week), etc...

Variables to modify:

The the intensity of your training...slower/low intensity, moderate speed and intensity, high speed and intensity, intervals
The length of time you train...from 20 minutes, to 30 minutes, to 40 minutes, to 50 minutes, to an hour.
The type of exercise you do...bike, rowing, elliptical trainer, treadmill, walking, etc
The frequency with which you train...3 days a week, to 4 days a week, to 5 days a week, to 2x day 3 days a week

A note about this...change your frequency only as a last resort!!! The more frequently you do cardio, the quicker the body adapts and the LESS you get from it!!!!! Be sure to take 1 full week at least every 3 months doing NOTHING!!! In addition to other benefits, this de-conditions the body so that when you come back your body is more responsive again. When you come back, start your training at 30 minutes 3x week and moderate intensity with a new type of cardio.

Then increase the intensity (2-3 weeks), then try interval training (2-3 weeks), then switch the type of cardio and start the new type at moderate (2-3 weeks), then high (2-3 weeks), then intervals (2-3 weeks), then switch and repeat. Then add 10 minutes and go 40 at moderate (2-3 weeks), then high (2-3 weeks), then intervals (2-3 weeks).

After 3 months...REST and come back and repeat the pattern.

IF after 1-2 weeks you are not seeing any loss of body fat weight, you may need more time. If you still see nothing, you may need another day.

Be sure to get at LEAST 8-12 cups of water a day..preferably more
A multivitamin will help support your change.
Sufficient sleep (8 hours) also helps.
Avoid stress and depression as these slow fat losses.

Do you know your caloric target?
Go here to read up on this:
Caloric calculator <---- link to click
there is a calculator at the bottom of the post. Use the weight loss column.
(Remember that as your weight changes...this number changes)

Then go to fitday.com and use their free journal as a planner and try to create a menu of foods that fulfills this with around this range:
Protein-15-30%,
carbohydrates-40-75%,
fat-10-30%

The ideal range of protein for growth is .6-.9 grams per pound of body weight.

If you are a light eater and meats sit like a brick in your tummy then go for the lower part of the range.

If you enjoy meats and could eat them many times in the day, and they give you energy...go for the higher end.

Target the fat % on the scale proportionate with the protein.
Then inversely proportion the carbs to the protein.

I.E.
Protein-20%,
carbohydrates-65%,
fat-15%

Let us know how it goes and if you hit a plateau, let us know...we can talk you past a sticking point.

Just one more thing....stay healthy.

RE: I Hate My Body (No Quarter)

Sun, 01 Jan 2006 22:46:37 GMT

Do whatever you want for yourself, I say never accept who you are until you're satisfied. Giant muscles are definitely not a common denominator in what girls will look for.

RE: I Hate My Body (MarchHare)

Sun, 01 Jan 2006 21:11:22 GMT

Hello...thanks for your posts, everyone. From a guy who is used to being abused, esp. on bodybuilding sites, I appreciate the comments.

I am still trying to decide what to do. I'm thinking of just running and biking and not doing any weight in a hope to get rid of all the size I can. I still don't want to look muscular. People keep saying "accept who you are", but to me, that's accepting that I'm ugly. I guess it's hard for most people to understand...they think any guy would want to be big.

I know this isn't the healthiest maneuver, but what else am I to do? If I'm in great shape and somebody loves me muscular, I'm going to resent them for it.

RE: I Hate My Body (bodybuilding is life)

Tue, 29 Nov 2005 05:01:40 GMT

did you hurt your knees running that much? and how long did it take you to gain 20 pounds of muscle?

RE: I Hate My Body (Vario)

Mon, 28 Nov 2005 19:20:48 GMT

You want to be really skinny? Try running 10k's and marathons. You will shrink if you run 10 miles a day. It kept me at 120 all through high school. Now in college, I am trying to get to the size I should be. I've gained about 25+ lbs of muscle so far and feel like I need another 20.

RE: I Hate My Body (ironraider52)

Mon, 28 Nov 2005 17:46:23 GMT

Im not fond of my body but I wont dis it.

RE: I Hate My Body (bodybuilding is life)

Thu, 24 Nov 2005 18:28:52 GMT

hmmm... i guess marchhare is no longer active. I wonder how he's doing.

RE: I Hate My Body (No Quarter)

Mon, 21 Nov 2005 22:33:35 GMT

You really need one of those blog things.

RE: I Hate My Body (Misanthropy)

Mon, 21 Nov 2005 22:21:34 GMT

I cannot believe i missed this post until now.

I'd like to think that we have advanced to the point where stereotypical views of masculinity would be put to rest.

No way my friend. This debate has just begun. I like to ask people what they think masculinity is and the answer is usually a blank face or "i dont know." I think you have discovered a part of yourself that you are not sure of and your game of "rabbit hole" has begun.

From your posts i sense a loss for the understanding of masculinity and unsureness of the definition of acceptance of yourself and your surroundings. The storm is coming and you are unsure of where you should stand.

These riddles in life are undefined and unanswered, as it is what it is, life. Some questions have no answers and some answers have no questions like someones definition of masculinity. This is where acceptance comes in and its up to you to know when to accept your unknown.

Its like the rabbit hole, you have discovered it and now how far do you want to go? It can go on forever. But its not the destination in life, it is the journey and what you accept along the way.

RE: I Hate My Body (danmirage)

Mon, 21 Nov 2005 21:31:22 GMT

Yea.

Iconoclastic.

You are big. You won't shrink. ok.
You want to still enjoy your life? Time to stop carrying the burdon and do it.

I really enjoyed that you don't care what people think...even though you do. I know how that goes.

Glad you vented. I been there on so many of your points. I appreciate your post.

You know what people will most likely think...but let them do the thinkin, you really are not interested in the predictable ones anyway...I am sure that people like yourself who can actually have their own opinion are much more interesting to you anyway.

That is the tough part. when we don't subscribe to the status quo, when we don't have the same feelings, want the same things...and dont see anyone else like us.

For me, lack of validation was hard. It took a long time for me to get use to myself....at least in my perspective.

I want people to value me for the things I want to be valued for. There ARE things I want to be valued for. Like you, I would get the standard lines...the expectations, the..whatever, you know what-all I mean.

Well, I found out I had to advocate for the things I WANTED to be recognized for. Find people who recognized me the way that I wanted.

Anyway...I'm there, though my issues were different by any other name. I dig that you wrote.

Being big doesn't matter at all, positive or negative...unless it matters to you.

Now, as a preofessional I am going to tell you that this...
1) what can be done with my body so at least I can lose some weight
...is easy enough to deal with.

tootyfruit is pretty much in there.

What is your body fat %...
Figure it by clicking here
use the tape measure method if you have no calipers

And your actual weight...

Then I can tell you about how much you can lose, how, and some other options.

RE: I Hate My Body (bodybuilding is life)

Mon, 21 Nov 2005 14:06:30 GMT

you are so lucky. you know how many people would want a body like you? you shouldn't put yourself down like that, you have a athletes body! you don't sound too much out of shape but can be much better. body building is a hobby something most people do to prove something or just because they think it's fun. alot of people make a rich liveing off of healthy strong body's and to me it sounds like your putting it down. you can be both fit and smart! Like they said something is wrong because you took the time to find this web site. most people on this site are careing and understanding. body building does take alot of patience and endurance, but you can live a happier longer life if you stay fit. 45 minutes a day isn't all that much and it can help you sleep also. an example of a smart and strong person for example is good old CARSON PALMER! he can bench 350 and run the 40 in 4.6 seconds! if you don't know him he is the quater back on the cincinnati bengals. as you should know they have to be both smart and strong. well im just trying to help, you shouldn't be so critical on yourself! mayabe you can be a future body builder? i would love to hear from you again march hare.