Parents!!

Do any of the other teens on here have trouble with they're parents? It's kinda bugging me right now. It's not so much that they don't support what I'm doing and the fitness I'm trying to acheive, it's more that they're quietly mocking me and telling me that I'll never stick to it  Like I started a Food and Exercise journal and they rolled they're eyes, and they pretty much laugh all the time when I work out. It's starting to wear on me and I'm sure its barely just started . Sorry for the rant but it's just making me kinda sad like I can't do anything good for myself

 I don't talk to my parents, but if I were you I would just ignore them.  It'll be worth it to rub it in their faces when you're jacked.

Hehe yeah I try but it's hard because it seems like they're ignoring stuff  like my grocery lists and stuff, opting for what I used to eat, and thats realy hard when you're having trouble figuring out how to start out to begin with! At least I do most of my workouts at night...

Set it in your mind that you're doing this and you don't give a **** what anyone says. That's the mentality you need, come hell or high water you're gonna get jacked and anyone who gets in your way will be struck down! Get pissed!
 
Don't go cursing at your parents or anything lol but just keep the strong positive mentalitly and DON'T STOP.

Blake
Age 19
Hieght ~5'10.5"
Weight ~196
Bench ~275
Squat ~390
Dead Lift ~375
MilitaryPress ~200
Hang Clean ~205
6-17-07
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Heh, thanks guys I feel better now! Sometimes it's just like, nothing I ever do, you know?

Yeah, I know what you mean Trick, I'll remember that :)

ORIGINAL: Poison

Hehe yeah I try but it's hard because it seems like they're ignoring stuff  like my grocery lists and stuff, opting for what I used to eat, and thats realy hard when you're having trouble figuring out how to start out to begin with! At least I do most of my workouts at night...

That's right, which is why in a few weeks I'm gonna buy my own fridge, and make a grocery list and get everything I need for a good diet.  I'll probably get a power rangers lunchbox and carry food in there too.

ORIGINAL: Poison

Do any of the other teens on here have trouble with they're parents? It's kinda bugging me right now. It's not so much that they don't support what I'm doing and the fitness I'm trying to acheive, it's more that they're quietly mocking me and telling me that I'll never stick to it  Like I started a Food and Exercise journal and they rolled they're eyes, and they pretty much laugh all the time when I work out. It's starting to wear on me and I'm sure its barely just started . Sorry for the rant but it's just making me kinda sad like I can't do anything good for myself

 
 
My mother always told me that I would be very thing like my uncle he is 6'1 160lbs..  I told her I wanted to lift weights and get big and she told me "some people just are not ment to be big and muscular"  I remember what she said till this day.. I was 15 years old.. at that time I was probably 6'1 140lbs... I kept working out in the garage did not really know what I was doing... anyways im 23 years old now and im 205lbs and still growing.. Up until last year they use to say the same thing all the time.. over and over! now they feel bad about them self and want to keep up with me.. my father use to talk about how strong he was etc.. how muscular he was when he was younger.. I found his picture at 25 years old.. he is not jack and never will be jack compared to me.. in the gym he is strong but nothing but a little girl to me which is how i picture him back in his 30's too.  
 
Let this be a lesson to you.  anyone can get big,  if you want it you won't stop. if you do stop then your a failure,  you will be a failure the rest of your life.. The only reason your parents are doubting you is most likely because you have tried to do other things in your life and you quite.. that was the case with me.. They now see you as a quiter..  So if this is your goal stick to it.

Hey thats a pretty good idea! Thanks yet! 

whatever ya do dont give up thats how my mum was like with me but only 5 weeks later she is like...... FU*KING HELL I DONT BELEIVE HOW MUCH YOU HAVE CHANGED so just keep at it pal

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I'm still living at home while going to college and my parents can't believe how big I've gotten. My dad at his biggest was only 180 back in his 30's, he can't believe I'm approaching 200. They never really had any bad words for me mainly because I don't really discuss it with them but the grocery list was a problem for a while. Untill my mom finally decided she needed to make some changes and loose some weight herself. I've basically been her PT and I'm about tired of that ****, she has horrible commitment and just wants to make excuses for her age and whatever else. pisses me off. 

Blake
Age 19
Hieght ~5'10.5"
Weight ~196
Bench ~275
Squat ~390
Dead Lift ~375
MilitaryPress ~200
Hang Clean ~205
6-17-07
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ORIGINAL: Trick2Stroke

I'm still living at home while going to college and my parents can't believe how big I've gotten. My dad at his biggest was only 180 back in his 30's, he can't believe I'm approaching 200. They never really had any bad words for me mainly because I don't really discuss it with them but the grocery list was a problem for a while. Untill my mom finally decided she needed to make some changes and loose some weight herself. I've basically been her PT and I'm about tired of that ****, she has horrible commitment and just wants to make excuses for her age and whatever else. pisses me off.

HAHAHA same story with me! only my dad does stick too it.. but both of them wont change their **** ass diets.

Your only 19 how old is your mother.. if she is in her 40's i would totally laugh at the age being an excuse.. the professional Bodybuilders in my gym are all about in their prime in their 40's not to mention I think ronnie coleman is in his 40's.

She's actually in her early 50's but I still think it's a cop out. I'm trying to get her started on free weights and whatnot but she just try's to gravitate towards the machines, put on plate of weight on and do 30 easy reps (she's combining 2 sets of 15 into one set of 30 somehow she says.) then goes to another random machine and does the same on a totally ranom mucle group and she's done. I swear she hasn't heard a single thing I've said.
 
My dad eats horribly and not very often and he's so stubborn he won't listen or work out. It kinda makes me sad they won't focus on their health. At this rate due to them waiting so long to have me they won't be around to see their grandkids.

Blake
Age 19
Hieght ~5'10.5"
Weight ~196
Bench ~275
Squat ~390
Dead Lift ~375
MilitaryPress ~200
Hang Clean ~205
6-17-07
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ORIGINAL: Trick2Stroke

She's actually in her early 50's but I still think it's a cop out. I'm trying to get her started on free weights and whatnot but she just try's to gravitate towards the machines, put on plate of weight on and do 30 easy reps (she's combining 2 sets of 15 into one set of 30 somehow she says.) then goes to another random machine and does the same on a totally ranom mucle group and she's done. I swear she hasn't heard a single thing I've said.

My dad eats horribly and not very often and he's so stubborn he won't listen or work out. It kinda makes me sad they won't focus on their health. At this rate due to them waiting so long to have me they won't be around to see their grandkids.

my mom is 50 and I just had her doing calesthenics and it was only like a but raise... or half way pushup and she got tendonidouse... the doc was shocked how it happened.. but my mom barely eats probably 40 grams of protein in a day and 1,400 calories she worries about getting fat but its actually totally messing her up.. she cant even lift 30lbs...


My old man is a different story he is fairly strong.. Only he wont work his legs with free weights, it drives me nuts! So i guess overall body strength he is not all that strong..



Age and life style will have alot to do with it.. don't injure you mother like I did to mine.. First you want to work on her diet.

there no doubt projecting their own feelings of worthlessness onto you. tell them to stick it up there ass and use spite as your newest goal for motivation. i have parents like this too (that attack self confidence) and what you have to do is just ignore them, dont let them get to you.

Hey poison, prove them wrong, they say you cant do it? show them whos right. If you let people get you down and tell u ur not good enuf then you never will be. Trust me overcoming these w*****s will just compensate to your gains and confidence, i know that from personal experience.

Good luck and keep doin what ur doin
 
x

i don't live at home, but i still have to deal with the questions as to why (especially being female) i want to be at a low bodyfat percentage and blah blah blah, why do i wanna look like a man? unless you lift like we do, you don't get it. if i don't go to the gym, i'm really pissed off and feel really on edge all day until i hit the gym again. do it for you, because you want to. it's good for you, you know that. the grocery thing? F 'em. if you can, get a job of your own and buy your own food, put your name on it and stick in the fridge. then if they question you about it, tell them that this isn't hindering you, it's stopping you from drinking, using drugs, hanging with the wrong crowd, etc. working out is also keeping you calm at your age, keeping your mind focused so you can learn when you're in school or whatever. i just don't get why parents would ever tell their children it's "stupid" or something to work out. there are way too many obese kids out there. i'm glad to see you're taking the initiative to work out and be in shape. keep up the good work, and don't let people stand in your way.

It saddens me that in an age where govt predicts the parents will outlive the kids, that your parents are not supportive in your attempt to stay healthy and fit and stay out of trouble - if your training then you are not out doing bad stuff..........
Linda

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thankfully they support me pretty good, but sometimes i get them trying to get me to weight back on by shoving food down my throat that they try and convince is healthy for me but really isnt at all. idk, it just seems like some parents dont want there children to work hard at stuff like that.

perhaps if you educate them and help them understand why your doing what your doing may help?
 

my advice is to use this as motivation. when youve got your six pack and 22 inch arms, rub it in your dads face. if you keep it up for years, you wont have a beerbelly like most dads.

first day with no buds, 11/17, need a new job. 1 down 13 to go.

ORIGINAL: mr. 209

my advice is to use this as motivation. when youve got your six pack and 22 inch arms, rub it in your dads face. if you keep it up for years, you wont have a beerbelly like most dads.

 
alot of people wont make it to 22 inch arms.. its sad but true.. genetics has a good part in body building.. but you can always bulk and cut to your genetic limits and have perfect symetry... there is nothing wrong with that. 

You're near 20% bf and your parents think you're too thin and try to make you eat more? What's wrong with them?
 
I can't believe some people think it's "unhealthy" to have a low bf %. The general populations idea of what's healthy and many other things is just so skewed it's unbelievable.

Blake
Age 19
Hieght ~5'10.5"
Weight ~196
Bench ~275
Squat ~390
Dead Lift ~375
MilitaryPress ~200
Hang Clean ~205
6-17-07
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im about 260lbs at about 20% body fat (i had a 3 month lay off due to injury) so i slipped a bit back to wat i was last yr) and my mum(i dont live with my dad) does pretty much everything she can to help me get thinner and stronger but my dad used to work out in his day and does still a little i think but i didnt think people got this kinda **** from their parents but yeah just keep on lifting within ur limits and i dont get how 20% someone can think 20% IS healthy im roughly 18-22% bf and im pretty fat so how do they even get that idea

15 yo ,259 pound at @ 23%bf

Maxes:

Smith Machine Squat=185kg or 407 pounds
Bench=70kg or 154 pounds
Deadlift: 120kg or 264 pounds
Military Press: 55kg or 121 pounds

My parents are the exact same way; they look at whatever I try as another goal that I'll just give up on.  It's hard to work out while they're in the house sometimes because both they and my brother/sister will just laugh to themselves when they see me benchpressing and whatnot.  But once I have a 6 pack and nice arms, they'll be jelous 

 The thing that makes me REALLY mad is when my mom talks to members of my family, who have no idea what they're talking about, about the supplements I take.  My mother also has no idea what Animal Pak, or Exceed does, and she thinks protein shakes are supposed to wake you up.  Anyway she'll say things like "he's taking these things to make him gain muscle, I think it's steroids"  then they'll walk over to me and want to inspect my body, and I have a little bit of acne on my back (my doctor says it's from increased test levels from working out, and it goes away with time) and they go AH HA STERIODS!!!!!!

Bunch of retards.

My mum's urging me to not get bigger than I am now because she reckons it'd be unattractive, other than that she acknowledges that she can't do anything about my decisions and goals.

I love my mummy. :p

yeah all this pisses me off laughing at my grocery list saying the supps i want will be negative in my future even though they have no f****** clue. I'm the best athlete in the grade and they show no pride what so ever. people think our lives are easy and joke about saying were on roids but they have no f****** what we put ourselves through the money we spend to be healthy because supply and demand of healthy in the United states of obesity. the food we refuse to eat that tastes so good. the supps we choke down. the iron that we throw around that defines who we are, Brothers and Sisters were the ELITE. the one percent of the world that does what we do. thats why were so hardened and dangerous, they fear us of what we are and what we'll become.

wow, I'm late to this thread. makes me sad and frustrated at the same time.

for all you guys (and women!) who have decided to make a positive difference--YAY! Go for it! Keep on the path.

At the same time, love your parents. They are human. As a friend of mine said the other day, the only thing that prevented them from putting you on the front doorstep when you were that obnoxious baby was that they loved you to death. (He has 7 month twins, and is still sleep deprived).

If they don't know what the supplements you're using are, show them, educate them (patiently, w/o attitude). If the grocery bill becomes onerous (hell, I didn't lift when I was a teenager, and my parents still worried about the food bill), try and help out, even if that means just $20 once in awhile, or doing something extra around the house.

If they're mocking you or your goals (are they really? Maybe your impression is wrong, or maybe they are being insensitive--that human thing again), ignore them. You've done plenty to piss them off in the past, so just think of it as a little justified payback.

Don't "rub" your success in their faces or up their asses. Your body will show the results of your dedication. If they still don't get it, oh well, change the topic.

"If there's nothing else that's relevant, I'll be leaving now"

"Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground"

Ignore those jerks my parents can be the same way. there not always very supportive. 

Great thread.

My father hated the idea about me going to the gym, then I started going 5 days a week, he also hated that. He told me I was was focusing too much on something that didn't matter. After a while, he realized this helped me focus on other dimensions of my life as well. I got more serious about school, work, family, etc. He then started paying for my protein and buying me food. As he saw my body change as well as my attitude, he decided he needed a change as well. I started cooking meals for the both of us, he started walking and lifting free weights again and I feel that things are going pretty well.

In this past year my mindset has changed so much, hes now very happy that my friend got me into working out, cleaning up my diet, etc.

5'7" - 20 - 195lbs