Hi everyone i need help

Read this:
http://www.discussbodybuilding.com/m_111175/mpage_1/tm.htm

Try to avoid shakes, but rather consume meals, but if you need to, I guess 1 shake is Ok. Just make sure that every meal contains fats/carbs/protein. It's all stated in the guide.

Also, read this as well. I would recommend you trying out the routine
http://www.discussbodybuilding.com/m_120872/mpage_1/key_Natural%2cMass/tm.htm#195340

Eating properly is just as important as the wieght lifting. Its like giving a car 1/2 a tank and trying to drive it the distance a full tank can go.
 
Breakfast is extremly important, that crap about it being the most important meal wasnt all talk. It really is, and by skipping out on it your robing yourself of energy. So guess where your body gets its energy from when you dont feed it?...your body will tear down muscle and use it for energy.
 
you may not be a morning eater, but just like getting used to lifting wieghts you have to force yourself to go and do it. as vdk suggested set your alarm so you dont miss it. and getting 500 calories in 6 smaller meals really isnt as hard as you think.
 
and as for the shakes, nothing is wrong with taking them to add in the extra protein/carbs/calories depending on the type. but you can always eat somethign with it to add in some good fat/carbs or more calories. for example, when I drink my protein shakes I always like to add a small protein bar or 2 granola bars with it. that way im getting lots of protein, and im adding carbs/more calories and fat.
 
depending on when you wake up a typical day can work out something like this.
 
8am- breakfast
10am- snack
12/1- lunch
3-4 - snack
6-7 - dinner
before dinner snack mix of protein and carbs
 
just sit down and plan it out according to your schedule. Peanuts/fruit/shakes/pb&j/pb&banana/other nuts/whole wheat sandwhichs all make great snacks, find good things you like!

im going to use all your advices :) thanks. One other thing is all calories the same for instance when you say i should consume atleast 3000 calories a day, well a can of coke has 161 calories in it does that count??? or a packet of chips do they count??

Yes they count, but with the chips try to stay torwards the baked variety if thats your thing. =P
 
I feel its best to try to stay as healthy as possible when trying to gain wieght, so to optimize the lean gains. Incase you didnt know tho, if I recall correctly there is 4 calories in one carb/protein and 7 in one fat.

current 5rm On the texas method
Squat:325
Deadlift:365
Bench:255
My lifting journal

http://strengthmill.net/forum/showthread.php?s=38c084ec0455b629ed0f09e4af40aeaf&t=2407&page=8

Guys you have answered all my questions thanks , its now a matter of will power..  im scared.

Maybe you can find a friend with the same interest to train together with you. This should help with keeping your motivation high. You might even find someone in this forum who lives around your place.

yeh that would be good soon as i start to get results from home i will start going gym, anyone live in Sydney, Australia, Near Liverpool haha. Oh yeh one other thing about the calorie thing... are there different types of calories, like does liquid calorie burn away quiker that solid calorie ?? Today i was trying to eat lunch and i didnt have an appetite i had a bar Nut/honey/chocalate in the morning with milk then i tried to eat a plate of macaroni for lunch at 12pm i ended up finishing it at 2:30pm on my last break at work, then at 5pm i ate a plate of fish n chips, then at 9pm i had a shake. is that alright?? and howcome i didnt have an appetite at lunch, is that normal ??