5 weeks in. I have some questions

Here is a little background on myself.  I am 38 years old, 5'11" and 230lbs.  In my late 20's I followed Body for Life while in my late 20's and got myself in quite good shape but in the years since have not kept it up.  5 weeks ago I started working out again. 
 
I follow a good diet.  I eat 6 meals per day.  1 carb-1 protien with each meal and I include vegetables with at least 2 of those 6 meals.  The only supplement I use are creatine, fish oils and a multi-vitimin.  As well as protein shakes.  I have totally cut out refined sugar from my diet.
 
When I worked out before I made some mistakes which I don't want to repeat.  I focused too much on losing fat instead of gaining muscle and often did not eat enough.  I also did not change my workout.  I did the same exercises over and over, for months.
 
So as I start my 6th week I have some questions that I've had trouble finding the answers to so I joined this forum to look for help.  Have other questions but I'll start off with these 2.
 
So here are my questions.  Keep in mind that I have no aspirations for becoming a competitive body builder.  My goal is to be healthier, leaner and stronger but I do take my weight training seriously.
 
1.  I've read that I should limit fruit as my carb to only post workout meals.  I've always tried to keep starches (potatoes and bread) down to only 2 serving per day.   Should I limit my fruit? and can increase my limit of starchy carbs to 3? 
 
2.
After a month of working out I am changing my exercises.  I've been working out at home but since I need to change the exercises I have been doing I have started going to the gym because of the limits of my home gym.  For the first month I seperated my upper and lower body workouts.   Now there are some body parts which I can still do at home, and there are others where I would much rather use the gym equipment.  I want to do my lower body at the gym, and also my back.  And still do the rest of my upper body at home. 
 
So my question is...if I do my back on Monday, will muscles,  that get hit indirectly, like  bi-ceps be rested enough to be worked out on Wednesday? 
 
Doing both my workouts at the gym would solve my problem but I live in a small town and the weight room is far enough drive that I would like to continue to workout at home whenever possible.
 
Thanks for any help.

Yes after 2 days they should be good, unless you mean doing deadlifts both days, but if your doing deadlifts, then like curls/chinups 2 days later, they should be fine.

Goals by end of 2009:
Bench 205
Squat 255 ATG
Squat Clean 185

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I use heavy compound lifts 3 times a week. I make sure the other muscle areas get affected. When I do bench press (mon), i will do squats tues, and bi'tris wed. The point is that you should never work the other muscle areas to exhaustion. I have never had a problem using that approach to this situation. If you find you did a chest day and maybe you maxxed out, and you dropped it, and you sat there wheezing for 40 minutes, pushing with all your might till it rolled off your jugular, then the next day realized you might not be 100% for curling, I would switch your back day for the week.

But I have never had any compound lift of mine interfere with my isolation exercises

You should get P90X if you want to work out at home. The program switches up so ou dont get out of balance. All you need is dumbells that go as high as you can one arm row and a pull-up bar. Since you're not looking to put on too much muscle this would be good for you. I've put on about 10 lbs of muscle over the past year or so. I've also gotten about 30 other people hooked on it and countinga s their getting others hooked too. Great program.

I used P90x for a while, I just really enjoy being at the gym. For some reason being at my house and working out doesn't let me get into it 110%

Thanks for the help.  I've never heard of P90X.  I'll look into it.

I actually started going to the gym for both work outs.  I'm like Gun Ryo, going to the gym just keeps me more into it.  I go on my lunch hour so I find it so much easier to stay on track.  It's just part of my work day.

At home there are always other things that compete for your time.

just ttry to keep startches and fruits in the mornings early afternoon , this way you get lasting energy for the day an when it comes time to eat you'll feel more satisfied and full longer so it will be easier to limit over eating laterin the day instead you can get a low cal high protien meal in

an example would be get most your carbs in , in your first 2 meals of the day and minimize them for the rest of the day , of course takesome for recovery post workout ,

on your off day's stick with 2 high carb meals again in morning early afternoon


adjust these times an stuff to the hours you function on like when your day starts

The reason you should have fruits post workout is because this is when you want an insulin spike, and high GI foods - such as fruits - increase blood sugar and insulin response. The rest of the time you should have unrefined and unprocessed whole foods as they create a steady insulin response through-out the day.

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